I want to be anonymous for now… so my posts can be completely honest…

I am a 39 year old slim, brunette woman. I have been with my husband for 20 years. I am completely (apart from the odd kiss) 100% faithful. I believe my partner (I know you can never be sure!) is also monogomous. We have 3 lovely children.

The amazing thing – which I didn’t imagine to be really possible – after being married for so long –  though of course it must be in many people’s lives, is that on a regular basis we have some really mind blowing sex. Not every single time of course – but mostly its really, really good!

Just to let you know though – we have had periods of no sex – maybe once a month or less sometimes – this has probably been due to my low libido during breastfeeding and really poor nutrition in my early 20s when I was trying to diet all the time (fuck that for a laugh!)

Also, he has delayed ejaculations…(I think thats the term) – When we first met, he said that he took a long time to come – sometimes never at all… The first time we fucked – I had 9 orgasms and he didn’t come at all. At 19, I didn’t really understand what was going on…(!)

We’ve never consciously worked with it – just found better positions and if he’s taking a long time to come – he self pleasures and I help him out… Sex used to take around 1 and a half hours – now its more like 30 – 45 minutes depending on many factors…A quickie for us is 15 – 20 minutes!

I orgasm fairly quickly – usually around 5 or less minutes without trying too hard – then I can have a few more and his ‘condition,’ means I don’t have to worry about him coming before me.

I have masochistic tendencies where sex is concerned and he has a sadistic streak which makes our coming together work oh so well.

I wanted to write this blog – because generally I don’t talk about sex with anyone apart from my husband. Sex feels to be a huge part of my life and its kind of bursting out of me – so I almost have to write about it. Also I’m aware that maybe I have about 10 more years of it being the way it is – as the menopause will come – these sexual moments are deliciously precious and I want to record them somehow…

Sometimes I get really sick of reading about amazing sex in stories or blogs – tight cunts, massive cocks and breasts, delicious cum etc –  you know what I mean. It can be a real turn on – but after a while – for me anyway it can feel abit sterile.  So although I want to have lots of good sex –  I also want to write about the flops and the sex which may be disjointed or disappointing – to somehow redress the balance and show a more realistic view…


78 responses to “About…

  1. lostinnevada

    September 8, 2011 at 3:24 pm

    I enjoy reading your blog and decided to help you get the word out about it so I nominated it for the Versatile Blogger Award! check my blog for the rules.

    • sexuallifeofawife

      September 8, 2011 at 8:02 pm

      Wow, that sounds great! Maybe I won’t need to put so many ‘fucks’ in my titles to get views then. Thankyou!

  2. thepostmanalwaysrings

    September 19, 2011 at 9:49 pm

    What a wonderful find! I love the idea behind your blog and the writing is superb…thank you!

    • sexuallifeofawife

      September 20, 2011 at 6:09 pm

      Thank you! The idea came to me very suddenly and within an hour the first post was impulsively written.

  3. chipotlecpl

    September 22, 2011 at 1:54 pm

    Fantastic blog. I really admire your diligence in updating it so often as well.

    • sexuallifeofawife

      September 22, 2011 at 2:26 pm

      Thankyou! I used to hate keeping a diary with a vengeance whenever we had to at school – but I’m actually really enjoying this!

  4. 2passion

    September 22, 2011 at 5:24 pm

    Hummmm…. wife who enjoys sex and has a nashochistic streak!!! Where have you been all my life??? LOL!! Do you give classes???

    • sexuallifeofawife

      September 22, 2011 at 8:37 pm

      Thank you for your enthusiasm! No classes as of yet … ; )

  5. vitopantello

    October 13, 2011 at 10:24 pm

    I really enjoy your site… Thanks for keeping it real!

    • sexuallifeofawife

      October 14, 2011 at 5:50 am

      Thank you! I do cringe though sometimes when clicking the publish icon ; )

  6. 2passion

    October 14, 2011 at 10:29 pm

    Would you mind if I added your blog as a link on mine?? Thought I’d ask first.

    Am enjoying yours!!

  7. Scarlett DuBois

    October 25, 2011 at 11:17 pm

    I have nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award. Check out my site to get more info 🙂

  8. 2Passion

    November 10, 2011 at 5:31 pm

    Gotta get your posts!!!! 😉

    • sexuallifeofawife

      November 13, 2011 at 7:11 am

      Thank you for your enthusiasm again 2Passion! You will get them! ; )

  9. terriblytorn13

    November 26, 2011 at 10:54 pm

    I have been nominated for the Tell Me About Yourself Award and I thought of you when putting together my list of favorite blogs. If you would like to play along the premise is to tell us seven things about yourself and then post 15 of your favorite blogs.

    I’ve always enjoyed your steamy posts and would love to see what you might share as your facts if you choose to give it a go.

  10. sexuallifeofawife

    November 29, 2011 at 8:14 am

    Oh, thank you terriblytorn! That is so sweet of you!

  11. Franny

    December 13, 2011 at 9:19 pm

    You are nominated for the “Lieblingsblog”-Award 🙂

  12. feelthrough

    December 15, 2011 at 8:03 am

    This is one amazing blog here! Your experiences are really amazing,trust me. I enjoy going through them over and over again. Keep sharing and keep up the job!

  13. H.H.

    December 29, 2011 at 11:20 am

    Dear Sophia,
    I can understand your shock at age 19 when you felt that you weren’t able to get your bf, now your husband, to cum. However, this is a technique that more men could cultivate in order to better please their female companions. See my entry, “In The Flesh” from June, 2011, for more on the subject.

  14. sexuallifeofawife

    December 29, 2011 at 11:36 am

    Oh I will HH straightaway in fact as I now have a few mins!
    It has definitely been a learning experience for the both of us. Cumming is no great challenge now and his delayed ejaculation has come to be a wonderful blessing which was very much in disguise…

  15. AhmadKhalifa

    January 16, 2012 at 10:43 pm

    after a quick skimming i found that it’s quiet interesting 😀 and i see sooooooo many posts so am gonna read a random post every day 🙂 and let u know wht i think 🙂

    • sexuallifeofawife

      January 16, 2012 at 11:01 pm

      Yes, I can’t quite believe that I have written soooo much! Thank you AhmadKalifa for dropping by and look forward to hearing what you think…

  16. AhmadKhalifa

    January 16, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    from what i get so far after some more quick reading is that ur husband is so understandable 🙂 and it’s a good quality, he’s ok with all ur secrets are now public 🙂 i think he cant say no to u “from what i have read so far :D” and sometimes u get the job done with self pleasuring urself or by helping him 🙂 which is good and understanding from ur side 🙂 thou if i might say u might be a bit so hard to keep up with, i mean come on 😀 more than 10 orgasms 😀 woooooooooooow and by self pleasure 😀 tha’s awesome 😀
    but from what i can tell tht u 2 love each other so much and that’s the important thing 🙂
    i wish i could come back for some real reading 😀

  17. pivoine68

    January 30, 2012 at 8:02 am

    I really enjoy your blog!

  18. Foster Drake

    February 5, 2012 at 6:44 am

    The premise of your blog is quite frankly brilliant. May I exploit it for poetic inspiration? Your descriptions are tantalizing and lovely, and the imagery is really quite inspiring! Being new on WordPress, I am looking for sources of inspiration to fuel my writing, and this, my dear, is well worth my time!


    • sexuallifeofawife

      February 5, 2012 at 7:54 am

      Dear Foster,
      You are very welcome to use anything you find here for inspiration…
      I take it as a huge compliment that you would thing of doing so.
      Thank you!

      • Foster Drake

        February 5, 2012 at 8:14 am

        If you ever find it in your heart to donate an image that I may put with a poem, let me know. I have words, but no images of my own. I would gladly credit your blog! Just a thought on my part. I feel that I lack images, but I don’t think I will have the time to go digging for them online, and most of my posts are from my phone, so that makes it more difficult. But how much more personal and inspiring would it be if fellow bloggers contributed? What do you think? I am new to all of this. I want to make the experience interactive and stimulate the minds and bodies of my readers. Any suggestions or ideas are appreciated! Thank you!


      • sexuallifeofawife

        February 5, 2012 at 1:32 pm

        I would be honored for you to do that!
        If you see an image that you would like to use – let me know and I will send it to you…
        Otherwise I will mail you a good one – when I next take some…

      • Foster Drake

        February 5, 2012 at 9:20 pm

        Then, if you wish, perhaps I could send you one I have yet to publish and you could choose for me an image for it as you see fit. If that suits you then I shall attempt to send you something soon via email. Thank you so much for your interest!

  19. sexuallifeofawife

    February 5, 2012 at 9:39 pm

    Yes, please do Foster and I will see if I have anything that matches up well…

  20. naughtyneighbor

    February 8, 2012 at 8:38 pm

    Damn! Hot and kinky and loving after 20 years and 3 kids . . . it is wives like you that are gonna put me out of business. (and good for you!!!)

    I am new to blogging, and I am

    • sexuallifeofawife

      February 9, 2012 at 3:17 pm

      Ha ha! I am glad to put you out of business (for my man anyway!) You can have all the rest though! ; )
      Welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

  21. samdolan

    February 25, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    I was hoping your about page can tell us about a way to contact you, other than leaving a comment… an email setup up just for the blog maybe, or a contact page.

  22. Foster Drake

    March 1, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    My dear, I have tagged you and presented you with an award for your magnificence. Feel free to come visit it at your leisure.


    • sexuallifeofawife

      March 2, 2012 at 11:20 pm

      Thank you so much Foster. I feel very honored to have been tagged and awarded by you. Much Love

  23. Theo Black

    March 31, 2012 at 7:31 pm

    Dear Darling or Bro: Because you have been generous enough to expose some raw, tender, or embarrassing side of your physical, intellectual, or aesthetic being, I have nominated you for the coveted TMI Blogger Award. Look here ( ) for the applicable rules. (Excuse the form-letter, but I have to post a bunch of these.)

  24. sexuallifeofawife

    April 1, 2012 at 7:17 am

    Thank you Theo!
    A compliment indeed!

  25. Anisa

    April 1, 2012 at 8:24 pm

    Dangit! Theo beat me to it! Ah, well. I’m awarding you the same thing. Come see!

  26. What I Wish I'd Known About Sex

    April 23, 2012 at 8:59 pm

    This is great! Totally what I aim for too – being sexy by being real, rather than fantastical. Look forward to reading more of your stuff!

    • sexuallifeofawife

      May 13, 2012 at 5:28 am

      Thank you What I Wish! Just sexy fantastical often turns me off! I enjoy reading stuff that is real – more interesting ; )

  27. BH

    April 26, 2012 at 5:15 pm

    Thank you! Delayed ejaculation! Now I know what it is. My husband has the same thing, and, I swear, I thought it was just him. You’ve just named it for me. Having that knowledge is incredibly helpful for me. I appreciate that immensely, and I also appreciate the honesty. Not every night of sex is a ’10’. Don’t I know it.

    • sexuallifeofawife

      May 13, 2012 at 5:26 am

      Ah, thank you BH! Yes, Delayed Ejaculation! It used to be really difficult – but now its briliant! Most of the time… ; )

  28. swingstar

    June 8, 2012 at 4:25 pm

    Just found your blog and how spooky, you started August and I started September. Kind of the same topic and we’re both using the same theme too.
    Really admire your honesty in your posts.

    • sexuallifeofawife

      June 10, 2012 at 5:27 pm

      Hi Swingstar! Ooh that’s intriguing – will check you out soon (have just arrived back from being away!)
      Thank you!

  29. deviant wench

    June 15, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Don’t worry so much about the menopause thing. I am most of the way through and hornier than ever. LOL

    Enjoying your blog, thank you for sharing.

    • sexuallifeofawife

      June 15, 2012 at 6:39 am

      Really Deviant Wench? That gives me a whole lot of positive hope! Thank you!!

      • deviant wench

        June 15, 2012 at 5:38 pm

        Anything to help. 😀

  30. Little Miss

    October 23, 2012 at 9:03 pm

  31. Dr. Joel Block

    October 26, 2012 at 7:29 am


    Good day.

    I’ve not heard back from you about promoting my ‘Mind Over ED’ book yet.

    I hope you won’t mind my asking again if you’re interested in exchanging
    links or guest posting articles?

    (I have great ideas for topics that your audience will be interested in.
    Plus, I will write them for free!)

    I can also send you a FREE copy of the product that you can look over for

    Just let me know.

    Kind regards,

    Dr. Joel Block

    • sexuallifeofawife

      October 26, 2012 at 6:33 pm

      Hi Joel,
      I’m afraid time is of the essence at present and I don’t have much of it to guest blog.
      I will decline a guest post from you at the moment as I haven’t really done it before – my followers read me for me – if you know what I mean…
      I understand that you want to promote your book – so maybe I could do a review of it or some of it in the future – when things around here quieten down etc
      Sorry if I’m not being very helpful!

  32. Jen Maple

    November 21, 2012 at 9:58 am

    Hi, I’ve just discovered your blog and felt moved to comment. What you said about not talking to many other people apart from your husband about sex but feeling like It’s going to burst out of you really rings true with me. I’m in my late twenties and been married 1 year but together for 8, like yourselves we’ve had periods of drought sex wise and some really bad times when it was the last thing on our minds, now though we put lots of work and effort into our sex life, and although not perfect (experience has taught me nothing is, it’s your attitude to it) we have a lot of fun and have discovered, with varying degrees of success, that vanilla isn’t the only flavour out there!! So to find someone with A voice like yourself telling it like it is and including the times its not so good really speaks to me deep inside.
    Thank you,
    Jen xx

    • sexuallifeofawife

      November 21, 2012 at 8:47 pm

      That’s so true that nothing is perfect. I think when I realised that, I began to be a much happier person ; ) Very glad I offer something that resonates for you. Comments like yours – spur me into doing posts… Thank you Jen!

  33. Romantic Dominant

    December 27, 2012 at 12:46 pm

    Fabulous blog. Wonderful body. Lucky husband.

    • sexuallifeofawife

      December 27, 2012 at 4:11 pm

      Thank you Romantic Dominant. It is an honor to have you here ; )

      • Romantic Dominant

        December 27, 2012 at 4:31 pm

        Believe me, visually the honour is certainly all mine

        Oh, and I admire your relationship as well as your body.

  34. His Vixey

    March 15, 2013 at 12:37 am

    I love your blog! Always very sexy writing and photos. In fact, it was one of the most inspirational to me when I decided to start my own sex blog. I put you in my links, if that is okay with you.

  35. The Hook

    April 12, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    You know I’m a lifelong fan who thinks you’re the best, right?

  36. Smarty Pants Erotica

    May 4, 2013 at 7:39 pm

    Just wanted to drop a quick note to say how much I enjoy your blog. Thank you for sharing!

    – Smarty Pants Erotica

    • sexuallifeofawife

      May 7, 2013 at 9:03 pm

      Thank you Smarty Pants Erotica – as honour to have you here! : )

  37. ramblingpooh

    August 1, 2013 at 6:56 pm

    Finally getting to read the thoughts and musings of a ‘Real woman’… Thank you for offering us insight into your sexaholic mind… :p Perhaps I might learn a thing or two from you.. 🙂

  38. Wendi

    September 2, 2013 at 6:16 pm

    I get the feeling that you’re truthful and faithful to your feelings in your writings and as such, people, couples, …Can only benefit by reading your blog. Thank you.

  39. Lori

    November 21, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    I love how honest and in-your-face you are about your sex life. Keep it up! 😉

  40. Terre Brown

    April 1, 2014 at 8:56 am


    Do you accept guest posts?


  41. Mia

    November 17, 2015 at 10:41 pm

    We adore the rawness and authenticity of your blog, and would love to feature you on our new app: If there is a way to contact you, we would love to get in touch! Thanks!!


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